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Archive for June, 2008
Turning a Woman Off
Author: Dr. Ellen21 Jun
You may have seen him, in restaurants, in shops, in parking lots, the man who compromises the woman he is with by touching her in a way that she should never be subjected to in public. Intimate touching should only be done on intimate terms, at intimate times, and in an intimate setting. Women unanimously agree that they can’t stand when a man grabs at their “private parts.” To tell you the truth, I was amazed to find out how many women endure this kind of behavior from the men in their lives, this is certainly a cause of many marriage problems.
Erica explained how much she cared for her fiancé, but his actions in public were upsetting her. “We’d be going up an escalator, and he’d grab my rear end and squeeze it. Even though I would tell him to stop it, he would just laugh. I know it may sound crazy, but I actually began avoiding going to a mall where there was an escalator. But that didn’t stop him. We’d be out with another couple, and out of the blue, he’d squeeze my breasts right in front of them. I’d die of embarrassment, and he’d just stand there with a smirk on his face. He didn’t care where we were or how many people were around when he’d pinch or poke at intimate parts of my body. I tried to tell him how I felt and asked how he’d like it. You know what his response was? ‘Go ahead, I’d love it. Make in a sex object and see how much I’d object.’”
That is definitely a difference between men and women. Women hate to be treated as sex objects, while men sometimes fantasize about it. To a woman, it’s the ultimate insult. True love doesn’t embarrass or humiliate the person you’re with. If what you are doing to her is really what you’d like done to you, respect that she has different needs and different turn-ons. Respect her wishes as you would want her to respect yours. If you were a man who objected to your wife dressing in a provocative manner in public, and she ignored your feelings, you’d be embarrassed to be with her. There is not a woman alive who does not want the world to know that the man she is with respects her. You have to find out what feels good to her and what doesn’t feel and adjust your actions accordingly. That’s a sign of a good lover.
Creating a perfect balance between strength and tenderness is usually not a talent most men are born with. It takes time to develop, but it’s a goal you can continually strive to obtain. By carefully observing the reactions your mate has to your behavior, you’ll get a clearer picture of which part you need to concentrate on more.
Have you been guilty of turning a woman off? Are you willing to share your side of it? I’d love to hear from you.- Dr. Ellen
Better Marriage in Two Weeks
Author: Dr. Ellen21 Jun
Have you ever felt confused trying to figure out what will make your wife happy? Do you think you need marriage counseling to find out?
You really don’t have to be a mind reader to know how to please the woman in your life. If fact, it isn’t necessary to ask her what she wants and you don’t need months of marriage counseling. All you have to do is stop, look and listen. Closely observe what your wife does for you, wait two weeks, and then do the same thing for her. Sound simple? It is, but often it’s the simplest things that bring about the most happiness and change. Here’s how this works:
She calls you at work just to let you know she’s thinking of you. Wait two weeks and
call her with the same type of “I was just thinking of you) call.
She writes you a love note and leaves it in your lunch box or briefcase. Wait two weeks and leave a note in her purse or on her cell phone or the bathroom mirror.
She entertains the kids all day on Sunday, while you watch a football game with your buddies. Wait two weeks, and give her the day off while you take care of the kids.
She massages your neck and shoulders while you are reading the newspaper or watching TV. Wait two weeks, and while she’s watching TV or reading a book, give her a relaxing massage.
Hugs, kisses, conversation, surprise gifts, and anything else your mate does for you are a clear indication of what your mate really wants and needs. If every couple were to practice this exercise faithfully, the divorce rate would drop dramatically, because everyone would be getting his or her needs met. By paying close attention, you’ll see how much your mate craves what it is that she is giving or doing for you.
If you have felt that you were at a disadvantage because you aren’t imaginative, creative, or romantic, you are probably with a very creative, romantic, imaginative woman, since opposites attract. All you have to do is watch what she does, wait two weeks, and do what she did. You’ll hit the mark every time, because all you will be doing is acting on the clues she’s given you. Oh, how I love simplicity!
Enriched My Relationship with My Girlfriend
Author: Dr. Ellen21 Jun
I ordered your CD’s about a year ago, and they helped me so much to enrich and maintain the relationship I have with my girlfriend. I continue to read your advice on your website. You are the best, and I know you are helping many thousands of people with your sage marriage advice. Thank You!!!!!!!! Ben S.
Share How Light Her Fire Worked for You
Author: Dr. Ellen18 Jun
Please take a minute and let others know just how well Dr. Ellen’s, marriage counseling alternative “Light Her Fire”, has worked for you.
Do you have a question, share it
Author: Dr. Ellen18 Jun
Share your marital concerns or marriage problems. Others may have the same problems and will be happy to help. If you’re lucky, Dr. Ellen may pop in and give you her expert opinion as well.
You’re not the only man who wants to save his marriage
Author: Dr. Ellen18 Jun
Please feel free to share your thoughts and concerns about your marriage problems. You’re not alone. Many men have the same concerns and issues that you do. Most me want to stop divorce and end their marital problems. Please share, you can probably help someone else.