One of the basic principles believed and followed by some of the most prominent names in the world is the principle that what you focus on grows.  Essentially what this means is that when you focus on the negative or the lack in your life, then that is what you create more of.  The same is true with the positive.  Therefore, it stands to reason that you want to focus on the good that you have and nurture it to grow more plentiful.

This principle is easily carried over into a marital relationship.  Focusing not only on the positive things about your relationship but also in the positive aspects of your mate, can do wonders to not only turn around your marriage problems, but actually turn around your whole life.

Looking at your mate in a new light, can turn around your relationship and make you see your spouse in a whole new light.  If she is cheap, you can turn that around and say that she is always thinking about our future, or if she talks too much, you can say that she is friendly and a people person.  These are ways that you can turn around your thought process and focus on the positives that your mate provides in your life and in your relationship.

You must keep in mind that you can put a positive spin on just about anything, and remember that these are the things that attracted you to them in the beginning.  Expecting them to change to suit you is unrealistic, but what you can change is your perception of them, and if you do this I assure you that if you do this, you will find that they are more positive and attractive in your eyes.