Even in the best relationship, your wife will compare how you react to her with how you react with others.  She will be constantly sizing herself up.  If she is hearing fond stories about the cute things that your ex did, or how you wish she cooked more like your mother does, she is going to feel that she is not good enough, or enough of what you want.

Keep in mind that your comments may not be this obvious, but even little innuendos that cause her to think that there is another woman in your life who even comes close to her, can actually cause some serious marriage problems.  You may think that this is a small issue, however your wife wants to know that you are happy with your decision to make her your wife, and that there is no one else in the world that could even come close to her.

You can do this by looking carefully at all the wonderful things that your wife brings to your life and your world.  There are reasons why you chose to marry her and to spend your life with her.  That is what you need to focus on and compliment her on.  Tell her every day the reasons that you love her, and that you appreciate all that she brings to your life.  If love is in your heart and in your mind, then all else will come together.

Next time you come home to a messy house and no dinner, acknowledge that is because your wife was taking care of the kids.  Then tell her that she is a wonderful and caring mother, and that you are so glad that she is mother to your children.  Then you and the kids can pick up the house and call for take out.  Sometimes you need to focus on all the good and none of the bad.

It is hard to know sometimes what women are looking for from a man.  They don’t always get to the point and men can become frustrated at the generalizations that women make when they are asking for things.  They many times will say things like “I want you to help out more around the house” or “I want you to be more affectionate”.  Yet sometimes, despite a man’s attempts they just don’t make the mark and really give her what she wants.  What a women is really saying when she says these things is that I want you to love and appreciate me.  So how can you go about doing this? Well, the answer is surprising simple.  You can leave little I love you notes, even writing it on the bathroom mirror or leave a note in her car.  If you see that something is stressing her out, take it off her hands, or offer to do something that is completely different for you, don’t just take out the trash or mow the lawn, but maybe offer to cook dinner.  Plan it in advance, and let he know that from now on you will do dinner on Thursday nights to give her a break, and then follow through with it.  This will show her that you are really taking action towards trying to help out.  Or offer to do a household chore on a regular basis.  Believe me, just taking one chore off her hands will seem like a real effort on your part, and will be greatly appreciated by her.  What if she says that she wants more affection? Then give her a back rub, foot rub, or just sit close to her on the couch and hold her hand or put your arm around her.  Hug and kiss often, and not just because you want to have sex, but because you want her to know how much you love and appreciate her.  These very simple things can turn around a relationship.  It seems simple, yet somehow getting the language translated properly can be the hardest part.  By doing this you will not only have a better relationship, but you will also show your spouse that you are really listening to what she is saying.  These things will be more than appreciated I assure you.