Dear Dr Ellen-

I can’t tell you what a change your Light His Fire and Light Her Fire books have made in my marriage.  I can’t really say that Joe and I were on the brink of divorce, I think that it would be more accurate to say that we were suffering silently.  Neither of us really wanting to divorce, both wanting to be a full time force in the lives of our children, and at the very least settling for a lifeless marriage, where passion and romance had become a thing of the past.

When I was looking for things that I could do to help bring some life back into my marriage, I came across your site almost immediately, and thought to myself that if anyone could save my marriage it would be you.  Well, I ordered your books, but was a little skeptical and thought my husband would think that I was nutty, so I decided to start reading Light His Fire while he was at work for a few days and see how it went.  As I started reading I realized right away that this book was for me and as I began working some of the steps, I began to really see things begin to change.  Amazingly to my surprise so did Joe and it didn’t take long at all before he was smiling at me again, the way he used to years ago.  I shared with him the Light Her Fire book and he was so impressed with how Light His Fire was working that he immediately started reading.  Well, that is when things really began to take off.  This past weekend, we took the kids to Grandmas and spent a few days at home alone together.  I can’t just say that we enjoyed our time together, we had a blast and were laughing and playing like teenagers.

Your books have really turned not only our marriage problems around, but have created a much better environment for us to be raising our children in.  I personally believe that you have not only saved my marriage, but the marriages of my children in the future.  After all, how can they have a successful marriage if they don’t know what it looks like?

With Sincere Thanks,

The Carzone Family

Many men hear the words Marriage Counseling and freeze up.  I think perhaps this is because many men don’t want to air their problems to another person, and they don’t want to deal with the underlying emotions that having marriage problems can invoke.  This is what one man says about his reaction to marriage counseling and the Light Her Fire / Light His Fire:

I came in from work one day, not really knowing what my wife wanted from me, when she told me to come sit down with her at the table.  At first I really thought that someone had died or something horrible had happened, and then like that she just sprung it on me, “Honey, I think that we should go see a marriage counselor”.  I am not sure what the look on my face said at that moment, but I can tell you the thoughts that were running through my head, who me, why? Are you cheating on me? Am I not enough man for you? Don’t get me wrong, I did see that the spark wasn’t there anymore, but I thought that was just the way a marriage was.  Over time we had grown to me more like room mates, moving through the house trying to stay out of the other person’s way.  Sure we didn’t talk as much and didn’t have sex as much, but that was normal, wasn’t it? I told her I was fine with the idea of counseling, when in fact I really wasn’t.  I didn’t really see how bringing another person in was going to help us.  She made an appointment and I found the whole thing very mundane, she said what was bothering her, then I said my piece.  The counselor nodded a lot and threw in a few open-ended questions, but after a few weeks, I could see that we were just going around in circles.  I knew my wife must be truly unhappy if she thought we needed counseling, and she seemed to be getting very frustrated with the counseling.  I decided that I really needed something that could save my marriage, and so I began looking online and found Dr. Ellen’s Light His Fire and Light Her Fire.  The price was extremely reasonable, especially compared to how much we were spending on counseling each week, so I decided to order it.  Well, when it first arrived, I didn’t even tell my wife about it.  I figured I really needed to see if it was going to help.  I started to follow some of the advice that Dr. Ellen gave, and honestly, I was shocked that my wife responded so positively to the things I was doing.  A few days later, I shared Dr. Ellen’s program with her.  I can’t tell you how much this program has added to our lives and our marriage.  I never thought that we would ever feel this way about each other again.  Thanks Dr. Ellen, we couldn’t have done it without you.

I must admit that when I first heard about this program I was skeptical.  My wife and I had been married for 15 years, and I really thought that it was time to throw in the towel.  We had very much become two entities co-existing on the same plain.  We saw each other, we occasionally would give each other a little peck on the cheek, but we were not a married couple we had been reduced to being roommates.  I had too much respect for myself to cheat on my wife, although, I had begun thinking about it, and eventually just thought that divorce was going to be inevitable.

Well, obviously my wife and I both realized that we were heading down the path of no return, with a non-existant sex life and barely talking at all, my wife had the good sense to get the program that changed our marriage forever.

I knew that we hadn’t been passionate about each other but I wasn’t really sure why.  I didn’t even realize how powerful just kissing, I mean really kissing my wife could be.  Since instituting the 10 second kiss into our marriage several times a day, the passion is flowing again.  Honestly, I thought that getting my marriage back on track was going to be near impossible, however in just a few weeks we are having more sex, more laughter and just honestly enjoying each other’s company again.  Believe me the kissing works as to other things in this incredible program.  I just can’t believe that a marriage that I was about to throw in the towel on, has done such a complete turn around.  I feel like a newlywed all over again, thanks Dr. Ellen, you have been an amazing catalyst to getting our marriage back on track.