Even in the best relationship, your wife will compare how you react to her with how you react with others.  She will be constantly sizing herself up.  If she is hearing fond stories about the cute things that your ex did, or how you wish she cooked more like your mother does, she is going to feel that she is not good enough, or enough of what you want.

Keep in mind that your comments may not be this obvious, but even little innuendos that cause her to think that there is another woman in your life who even comes close to her, can actually cause some serious marriage problems.  You may think that this is a small issue, however your wife wants to know that you are happy with your decision to make her your wife, and that there is no one else in the world that could even come close to her.

You can do this by looking carefully at all the wonderful things that your wife brings to your life and your world.  There are reasons why you chose to marry her and to spend your life with her.  That is what you need to focus on and compliment her on.  Tell her every day the reasons that you love her, and that you appreciate all that she brings to your life.  If love is in your heart and in your mind, then all else will come together.

Next time you come home to a messy house and no dinner, acknowledge that is because your wife was taking care of the kids.  Then tell her that she is a wonderful and caring mother, and that you are so glad that she is mother to your children.  Then you and the kids can pick up the house and call for take out.  Sometimes you need to focus on all the good and none of the bad.

One of the basic principles believed and followed by some of the most prominent names in the world is the principle that what you focus on grows.  Essentially what this means is that when you focus on the negative or the lack in your life, then that is what you create more of.  The same is true with the positive.  Therefore, it stands to reason that you want to focus on the good that you have and nurture it to grow more plentiful.

This principle is easily carried over into a marital relationship.  Focusing not only on the positive things about your relationship but also in the positive aspects of your mate, can do wonders to not only turn around your marriage problems, but actually turn around your whole life.

Looking at your mate in a new light, can turn around your relationship and make you see your spouse in a whole new light.  If she is cheap, you can turn that around and say that she is always thinking about our future, or if she talks too much, you can say that she is friendly and a people person.  These are ways that you can turn around your thought process and focus on the positives that your mate provides in your life and in your relationship.

You must keep in mind that you can put a positive spin on just about anything, and remember that these are the things that attracted you to them in the beginning.  Expecting them to change to suit you is unrealistic, but what you can change is your perception of them, and if you do this I assure you that if you do this, you will find that they are more positive and attractive in your eyes.