Marriage Counseling Alternatives for Men
Save Marriage from Marriage Problems-Marriage Advice
I Didn’t Want to Have My Parents Marriage
Author: Guest25 Sep
I think there are no accidents in life. I had heard about your marriage counseling alternative “Light Her Fire” for two years from different sources before I finally decided that I’d take the gamble with my time and money and get the CD program. I wasn’t in a serious relationship at that time but I thought that if I learned more about how to relate better with women, I would have a better chance of finding the right person for me. I was twenty-six years old at that time and never had the feeling that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with any woman. My observations of my parents staying together in a loveless marriage, filled with anger and accusations, made me what I thought was a confirmed bachelor. I never knew that a union between two people could bring happiness. When I learned how easy it was to have a life with a woman who was caring and supportive, my anger and resentment of women disappeared. With my newfound understanding, I had the space to allow someone to come into my life. It is now three years later now and I’m engaged to be married to the most fantastic woman. I now know ways to avoid the pitfalls that my parents never knew, thanks to your program. I’m giving a set to them for their 50th Anniversary. Hopefully you can end their marriage problems and teach “old dogs new tricks!”- Jack F.
Turning a Woman Off
Author: Dr. Ellen21 Jun
You may have seen him, in restaurants, in shops, in parking lots, the man who compromises the woman he is with by touching her in a way that she should never be subjected to in public. Intimate touching should only be done on intimate terms, at intimate times, and in an intimate setting. Women unanimously agree that they can’t stand when a man grabs at their “private parts.” To tell you the truth, I was amazed to find out how many women endure this kind of behavior from the men in their lives, this is certainly a cause of many marriage problems.
Erica explained how much she cared for her fiancé, but his actions in public were upsetting her. “We’d be going up an escalator, and he’d grab my rear end and squeeze it. Even though I would tell him to stop it, he would just laugh. I know it may sound crazy, but I actually began avoiding going to a mall where there was an escalator. But that didn’t stop him. We’d be out with another couple, and out of the blue, he’d squeeze my breasts right in front of them. I’d die of embarrassment, and he’d just stand there with a smirk on his face. He didn’t care where we were or how many people were around when he’d pinch or poke at intimate parts of my body. I tried to tell him how I felt and asked how he’d like it. You know what his response was? ‘Go ahead, I’d love it. Make in a sex object and see how much I’d object.’”
That is definitely a difference between men and women. Women hate to be treated as sex objects, while men sometimes fantasize about it. To a woman, it’s the ultimate insult. True love doesn’t embarrass or humiliate the person you’re with. If what you are doing to her is really what you’d like done to you, respect that she has different needs and different turn-ons. Respect her wishes as you would want her to respect yours. If you were a man who objected to your wife dressing in a provocative manner in public, and she ignored your feelings, you’d be embarrassed to be with her. There is not a woman alive who does not want the world to know that the man she is with respects her. You have to find out what feels good to her and what doesn’t feel and adjust your actions accordingly. That’s a sign of a good lover.
Creating a perfect balance between strength and tenderness is usually not a talent most men are born with. It takes time to develop, but it’s a goal you can continually strive to obtain. By carefully observing the reactions your mate has to your behavior, you’ll get a clearer picture of which part you need to concentrate on more.
Have you been guilty of turning a woman off? Are you willing to share your side of it? I’d love to hear from you.- Dr. Ellen